Bull or waiter...which method leads you to your goals?

Off the top I'll say that I am a "waiter" most times when it comes to decisions I've made to move forward on something and a roadblock or a period of stagnate non-movement develops.  I've long since realized that in my personal experience if I bulldoze ahead trying to make something work for me, it usually doesn't get me very far except on the frustration scale.

Some people believe that when you are faced with opposition or delays, frustrations or roadblocks, that's an indication that you are meant to burrow forward because your direction is meant to be and working to get there is par for the course.

I take the stance in a totally opposite direction and fully believe that resistance to a direction we want to follow means that all things, steps, people or opportunities related to the goal I want to pursue is not yet fully in place or "on board" if you will.  I use to bash my way through these delays and blocks only to find myself losing interest and believing that the direction I was trying to go wasn't meant to be followed and I'd veer off and go in another direction or abandon the idea/goal or attempts to move on something, all together.


The lesson I learned that changed my mind

Back in 2004 we were butting our heads against the wall as we tried to locate living accommodations in a small city about 2 hours from where we now live.  Every house, every apartment, every person that we approached was very receptive and eager to arrange for us to move into their property.  We had moved to this small city a few years earlier and had decided to rent a home for a year or so before heading back to the city we'd just come from.  That year or so turned into over 3 years and as we waited for an employment opportunity to show up for my husband, we decided that we would remain where we were and rent another property on a month to month basis as the house we had been renting from a relative was now sold.

As April 5, 2004 came closer and closer we began to worry that we may not have any luck obtaining housing.  Every home that we had looked at resulted in the people who owned them not getting back to us.  Finally one day I told my husband, "Let's stop trying to push ahead with something that maybe isn't meant to be.  Let's just sit still for a bit and find out if something is coming toward us that is meant to be but that just isn't in place yet."  I was becoming convinced that something wonderful this way comes and all we had to do was show a little patience until everything regarding it was in place so that it would be able to move and we could then grasp it...whatever "it" was.

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Are you fearful or fearless?

I have a good friend whom I met online at another site we visited frequently.  We discovered that we both had an interest in positive thinking and when I wrote a review on a book called "The Secret" it was then that we began our friendship.

Over the months I've come to know my friend as someone who is not only a considerate, selfless and giving individual but he is also someone who doesn't allow the world to keep him down for long.  He's had his share of pit stops in life and the one thing I admire most about him is that when he's having a tough day, you would never know it.

Today I discovered that Pat (my friend) has been quite busy and I'm very excited for him and  the progress he has made in just these past months since I've known him.  Early in our friendship Pat would continually claim that he was not "computer savvy" and his most beneficial attribute was his voice, which he lends quite well to podcasts that we've done.

Well...over the past little while it appears that Pat has shed his non-computer savvy ways and has taken a pro-active step toward sharing his passion for cooking/grilling and has been doing a bang up job bringing his interests to the Net.

I'm a firm believer in the fact that once we begin sharing something that we enjoy, have an interest and/or a passion in we  find ourselves immersed within it and surrounded by others who also enjoy similar things.  Our ideas, our efforts and our interests seem to take on a life of their own, moving us in directions that we may never have expected to be traversing.


Fear of an unknown path is the Stumbler

Of the many of us who are out here there is a large number of people who just don't believe they can attain the success, the goals or the desires they wish for.  Instead, they allow themselves to remain where they are on the portion of the path of life they feel most comfortable with, afraid to move forward for fear that they will fail, be hurt, lose something or someone and worst of all, leave the comfort of what they know for the discomfort of the unknown.

Believe it or not, the fear that is felt when something new or foreign is presented to us, is something that has been inherent in us since a very early age in our life.  Our sub-conscious has a comfortable relationship with our fears - these fears are known to it and thus we are confronted with the doubts, thoughts and hold backs that our sub-conscious "knows" is best for us.

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Are you willing to take Detours?

"A stepping-stone can be a stumbling block if we can't see it until after we have tripped over it."                                                                                                                ~Cullen Hightower

Someone asked me this past weekend "How can you be so positive about everything?" to which I responded as I always do, "How can you not be!"  The conversation went silent but not awkwardly so, as my sister-in-law mulled this over for a bit.


We were headed to the Casino which was over 2 hours from our home and in another Province.  Neither of us had traveled the road before and so for good measure, we brought along two GPS systems and we both had cell phones.  Mine being a smart phone also had access to Google's Latitude and was also equipped with a GPS system.  Overkill?  Yes, perhaps, but you have to understand that when I and my sister-in-law do things together, more often than not, even without trying, we can get ourselves into some pretty interesting, if not laughable situations.  We decided we didn't want to take any chances getting lost and wandering around for ridiculous amounts of time trying to figure our way to or from  a location we'd never been to before.

The drive to the Casino, which is  located in a beautiful, scenic area of the Laurentian Mountains, was breathtaking.  Quaint, very Swiss looking and the people were quite friendly and very accommodating.  We had a fabulous time, won a little money, had a great meal at a Buffet and just before it began to get dark we decided it was time to head back home.


Not even 20 minutes into the trip back we realized we weren't headed in the same direction we'd taken to arrive at our destination.  As the road grew less even and  began to narrow considerably our "oh, oh" meters were trying to process whether or not we should turn around and go back to the ski village we'd just left and try our departure again.  My sister-in-law's GPS was apparently malfunctioning and although I asked if she wanted to use mine she declined.

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