Are you fearful or fearless?

I have a good friend whom I met online at another site we visited frequently.  We discovered that we both had an interest in positive thinking and when I wrote a review on a book called "The Secret" it was then that we began our friendship.

Over the months I've come to know my friend as someone who is not only a considerate, selfless and giving individual but he is also someone who doesn't allow the world to keep him down for long.  He's had his share of pit stops in life and the one thing I admire most about him is that when he's having a tough day, you would never know it.

Today I discovered that Pat (my friend) has been quite busy and I'm very excited for him and  the progress he has made in just these past months since I've known him.  Early in our friendship Pat would continually claim that he was not "computer savvy" and his most beneficial attribute was his voice, which he lends quite well to podcasts that we've done.

Well...over the past little while it appears that Pat has shed his non-computer savvy ways and has taken a pro-active step toward sharing his passion for cooking/grilling and has been doing a bang up job bringing his interests to the Net.

I'm a firm believer in the fact that once we begin sharing something that we enjoy, have an interest and/or a passion in we  find ourselves immersed within it and surrounded by others who also enjoy similar things.  Our ideas, our efforts and our interests seem to take on a life of their own, moving us in directions that we may never have expected to be traversing.


Fear of an unknown path is the Stumbler

Of the many of us who are out here there is a large number of people who just don't believe they can attain the success, the goals or the desires they wish for.  Instead, they allow themselves to remain where they are on the portion of the path of life they feel most comfortable with, afraid to move forward for fear that they will fail, be hurt, lose something or someone and worst of all, leave the comfort of what they know for the discomfort of the unknown.

Believe it or not, the fear that is felt when something new or foreign is presented to us, is something that has been inherent in us since a very early age in our life.  Our sub-conscious has a comfortable relationship with our fears - these fears are known to it and thus we are confronted with the doubts, thoughts and hold backs that our sub-conscious "knows" is best for us.

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The Subconscious - Secret weapon for personal change?

More and more of us have become interested in personal development.  There has been a surge to begin a  quest to transform  into individuals who are not only successful, but who are also content, joyful, spiritual and in harmony with the world and the people around us.

The problem  is in the sheer magnitude of information in the form of books, websites, videos and social network sites that seem to carry a few similarities but also just as many incongruities.  It is these incongruities that tend to confuse many of us.  Which train of thought is the best?  Can we be certain that the one we follow will indeed be the one that is beneficial to us and to our goals?

To this dilemma I have to say that each of us has within us a voice that often directs us (or tries) toward the best solution that matches our personality, our interests and our goals.  Yet, too many of us forget to listen to this inner voice or "gut instinct" as it's also known.  We tend to push this aside and choose to follow those trends that seem to be the most popular at the time.  The one that has the most followers, the most exposure or the highest level of interest represented by "celebrities" or other well known individuals.


Where should we really begin?

I believe that we should begin our inner journey to self discovery and development by turning within and exploring our emotions, reactions to various events in our life and our progress as it pertains to the road map we have both consciously and unconsciously laid out for ourselves. 

Something that each and every one of us has in common are two fears which each of us has been born with and those two fears are:  the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises.  Verifying this is quite simple.  We need only observe an infant and there reaction when they are picked up.  Their little fists are clenched and their arms and/or legs may extend outward and shake as though startled.  This represents their fear of falling.  This same reaction can be observed if for instance a book falls unexpectedly to the floor with a loud thud.  The infant again reacts by extending their arms and legs and perhaps crying.  These are the only two fears everyone of us comes into this world with.

All other fears:  the fear of insects, birds, flying, high places, snakes, enclosed spaces, the dark, etc., are all learned fears that we have subconsciously tucked away and can recall without effort as the need arises.

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